Why is my teenager so angry and hostile toward me all the time?

Constant anger and hostility from your teenager can feel like a personal attack, but it's usually more about their developmental stage than about you specifically. Adolescence is a time of intense emotional, physical, and social changes, and anger management is often how teens express feelings they don't yet have the vocabulary or emotional regulation skills to handle. Underneath the managing anger, there may be hurt, fear, frustration, or feeling misunderstood. They're also developmentally driven to separate from you and establish their own identity, which can manifest as rejection of your values, rules, or even presence. Their brains are still developing, particularly the prefrontal cortex responsible for impulse control and emotional regulation, making them more reactive and less able to consider consequences. Try not to take their anger personally, even though it's directed at you. Stay calm and avoid escalating conflicts by matching their intensity. Set clear, consistent Personal boundaries while also giving them appropriate independence and choices. Look for the emotion underneath the anger - are they feeling overwhelmed, unheard, or controlled? Address those underlying needs when possible. If the anger includes threats, violence, or is significantly impacting family life, don't hesitate to seek professional help from a therapist who specializes in adolescent behavior.