How do I deal with the anxiety that comes from not having control?
Perfectionism & Control Issues
Focus on what you can control, practice acceptance of uncertainty, and develop coping skills for managing anxiety when it arises.
Anxiety disorder about not having control is one of the most common forms of Anxiety disorder, and it can be particularly challenging because so much of life is genuinely outside our control. The key is learning to distinguish between what you can and cannot control, and focusing your energy on the former while developing acceptance for the latter. Start by making a list of what's actually within your control - your actions, your responses, your choices, your effort - and what's not - other people's behavior, outcomes, timing, external circumstances. When you feel Anxiety disorder rising about something outside your control, redirect your attention to what you can do in the situation. Develop a toolkit of coping strategies for managing the physical symptoms of Anxiety disorder when it arises - deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, grounding techniques, or mindfulness practice" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Mindfulness practices. Practice accepting uncertainty as a natural part of life rather than something to be feared. Remember that trying to control everything often creates more problems than it solves and can actually increase your Anxiety disorder. Build identity/building-confidence" class="internal-link">confidence in your ability to handle whatever comes your way by reflecting on past challenges you've successfully navigated. If Anxiety disorder about control is significantly impacting your daily life, consider Psychotherapy, particularly cognitive-behavioral Psychotherapy (Cognitive behavioral therapy), which can help you develop more effective ways of thinking about and responding to uncertainty.